How to communicate with your teenager
Finding talking to your teen an uphill battle? Psychologist, coach and dad Hennie Vorster throws light on the development of adolescents’ logical-rational faculties, the power of their emotions, the world they inhabit, and why so many struggle with anxiety. He advises listening for emotion, guiding teens to focus on what is in their control, and using choices and consequences as parenting tools.
Hennie Voster
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In ep. 99 of the weekly podcast series Calm, Clear and Helpful, Hennie touches on
understanding teens’ brain development and its impact on thoughts, actions and communication
gaining insight into the world teens are living in
rules around smart phones, social media apps like TikTok, and games: solid advice
how to listen to your teen – when in conversation, and at other times
what to do (and not to do!) when speaking to your teen
why parents may be experienced as “commanding and demanding”
why teenagers tend to shut down or withdraw – and what to do when it happens
how to speak to a teenager who has broken a rule
how to discipline children by using choices and consequences
how feeling they have choices makes teens more compliant
why family time is essential and how to fit it into a busy schedule
why boredom is “good” for children
reasons for the rise in anxiety among teens
when to seek professional help for your teen and how to approach this
Hennie’s 3 tips on managing anxiety.
In this episode, Hennie mentions Conversation starters for families (cards); the screen time app on iPhone and the Family Time app on Android (ways to control teens’ screen time); SafetyNet and Klikd (informative sites on children and the internet).
More about Hennie
Hennie Vorster is an educational psychologist, business and life coach and motivational speaker from Johannesburg. In his psychology practice he focuses on children, teenagers, families and couples and he incorporates coaching techniques into therapy sessions. His business coaching has included team, individual and executive coaching to a wide range of industries. He also facilitates training workshops.
Websites:
http://h2coaching.co.za/about-us/
https://www.mosaiek.com/bediening-wholeness/
Email: HennieV@mosaiek.com
Tel. 063 040 9463 or 083 564 8266
Facebook: Educational Psychologist - Hennie Vorster
LinkedIn: Hennie Vorster
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