We all have the need to love and be loved, but sometimes we seem to grow apart instead of closer to each other. Surprisingly, developing our individuality can strengthen intimacy. Sexuality counsellor André Webster explains different aspects of intimacy and offers tools for uncovering our own and our partners’ “back stories”, facilitating our individuation, and overcoming gridlock.

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In ep. 34 of the weekly podcast series Calm, Clear and Helpful, André explains

• what intimacy is

• why knowing ourselves and being congruent with who we really are will foster a healthy relationship

• how to “mindmap” ourselves and our partners; what to do, and what to avoid

• how to honestly share our thoughts and feelings when we fear being judged  

• where romance, intimacy, sex – and individuation – fit into the courtship process

• what gridlock is and how to break it

• how a break-up can be turned around

• 5 different kinds of touch

• André’s best tips for intimacy.

André’s wife, Jenny, shares her story of vision loss and what she and André have learnt regarding a happy marriage and healthy family relationships.

The free podcast series Calm, Clear & Helpful is available on iTunes, Spotify, Player FM and Iono.fm.

Contact details

André Webster is a sexuality counsellor who studied sexology and is based in Durbanville, Cape Town. He assists educators, pastoral carers, counsellors, parents, children, or anyone who is interested in encouraging or wanting to live a sexually healthy existence.

Website http://sexualitymatters.co.za/

Tel. 072 980 32 87

Email address andre@sexualitymatters.co.za

Facebook: Sexuality Matters. with André Webster.

Music by Mart-Marie Snyman.

Image: Unsplash.

Photograph of André Webster: supplied.